I made up my mind to leave and start afresh with my children. “God has been kind to us, He has provided, and we are doing well. Especially after my children’s father swore never to take care of them after we left.
Nakayiwa Racheal a mother of three, two boys and one girl explained that what drew her close to an understanding that the boys need a daddy figure in their lives. There is not so much she can teach boys about being men. As they grow older, the need to be assertive increases because unlike girls sometimes boys might look down on women’s instructions. Sometimes they listen, sometimes they don’t. Nakayiwa divorced due to irreconcilable differences.
She says that they agreed that the father of the children pays school fees for them then she covers the other needs such as food, shelter. The challenge though is that since COVID19 started her income has not been sufficient to take care of all their needs. She says that she has had to trim her family’s expenditure to fit. Often she will hear the children grumble saying that things would be better if their dad was present.
Single mother of two daughters, Byamugisha Victor expressed worry saying that her daughters have never lacked anything. ” They have had everything they needed and wanted too. The challenge though is I spent so much energy flawlessly taking care of them. I worry that they may never realize how important it is to get married in the future. I worry about whether they will be dependent on their husbands in the future. ” She explains.
I know for sure that it is better to bring up children with both parents present because they learn the importance of each of the parents.”Byamugisha added.
Some single parents are still hurt from their past relationships which causes them to sometimes neglect their roles towards the children.
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However Catherine Ruhweza commonly known as Maama Tendo a Marriage Councilor said that ,its a tragedy whenever marriages breakup ,not only to the immediate family members but to the nation at large because marriages contribute a lot to the stability of the nation.
She added that when children are brought up by both parents in marriage,they learn to socialize in the society,they grow up respecting both parents among others ,its on this ground that she based and asked parents to always bring in divorce as the last option.
Maama Tendo further explained that, where there has been divorce,parents should engage in co-parenting ,that their differences and anger shouldn’t affect the proper growth of their children .
Source: https://capitalradio.co.ug/lifestyle/2022-01-31-what-single-parents-experience-after-divorce/
